Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
Hugo C
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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby Hugo C » Tue Feb 07, 2023 3:01 pm

After having a Manta vibrator for a couple of months , I think it is amazing . My wife
likes to tease me with it . I have had great orgasms sometimes with a moderately
flaccid penis. My wife got me so wound up the other day with the manta I had to ask
her to stop, we had vaginal sex for the first time in 5 months after surgery .

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jimmyd24
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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby jimmyd24 » Tue Feb 07, 2023 3:23 pm

I have a Venus 2000.
It's a bit pricey, but it was the only way I could get off after trimix stopped working.
Started with Viagra at age 40. Worked good for about 12 years.
Tried Trimix injections, worked great for about 8 years
Now Trimix no longer works.
I got implant on Oct 26th 2022.

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby Pappys@@53 » Fri Sep 15, 2023 4:02 pm

I am new here. My prostrate was removed about 3 years ago. Have some success with intercourse but my penis does not get very large or hard and lose it sometimes. I have tried a pump and ring but the ring will not stay down at the base so i lose the erection. Why wont it stay in place? I have taken tadlafil but it doesnt always help and end up with bad headache the next day. Has anyone found any natural things thart help?

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby bldoink » Fri Sep 15, 2023 5:22 pm

Pappys@@53 wrote:...Have some success with intercourse but my penis does not get very large or hard and lose it sometimes.

If you're saying you're doing that good with no pills or other aids I'd think a good novelty/sex shop cock ring worn around your shaft behind the boys might be worth a try. See the "Cock Ring" thread in the "Members Only" sub-forum: https://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=16&t=21302
Until you find the ring(s) that work best for you expect some rejects.
Pappys@@53 wrote:I have tried a pump and ring but the ring will not stay down at the base so i lose the erection. Why wont it stay in place?

Unless you need the pump to get it up you may find that a novelty/sex shop cock ring worn on your shaft behind the boys will stay in place and may provide the boost you need.
Pappys@@53 wrote:I have taken tadlafil but it doesnt always help and end up with bad headache the next day....

Have you tried Viagra (Sildenafil)? I don't get along well with tadalafil and I have milder side effects with Viagra.

Good luck.
R.R.P 2011 Mayo Jacksonville, Dr. M. Wehle. Not nerve sparing. C in margins. Radiation 2023, V.E.D, Viagra and PGE-1 (80mcg/ml) injections @ 8 - 14 units. Originally Edex20, then compounded PGE due to cost. Inject. 12 yrs. It works. Treasure coast of FL.

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby Pappys@@53 » Sat Sep 16, 2023 4:20 pm

Trying to find something different from the pills. They all can have bad side effects. Don't want todo shots or emplants.

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby brian188 » Thu Oct 19, 2023 3:56 pm

Six months after surgery I found that I can masturbate my limp dick pretty good. It just took a long time to figure out how to stimulate myself to gain the highest level of arousal. I learned to just take my time getting myself "excited" enough to where my regular stroking up and down would bring me to orgasm and climax. I would just lay back and play with myself for a long time enjoying touching my cock and balls, and thinking of sexy things. Even limp, after a while I would find the sensation of touching myself creating more and more arousal. Sometimes it would take 20 or 30 minutes before I felt I was excited enough to start jerking myself like to old days. I will always concentrate on the head of my cock, and especially my corona which has always been my most sensitive part of my dick. I also found adding some nipple play, or anal play would heighten my level of arousal. An interesting note is that I've discovered that I can reach orgasm several times ( even with a softie ) before reaching my "point-of-no-return" where ejaculation is inevitable. Just like before I get that feeling that I am going to shoot my load and nothing will stop it. The tightness in my anus........the PC muscle getting real tight.........and then the rhythmic contractions during climax. Yes ................ my cock starting to pump away and the sensation of cumming, but just no cum.

Yup...........I can jerk off just like before. Just no hard-on to work with. And ............ it may be my imagination but I think my orgasms and climax are more powerful than before. One think is for sure, I can enjoy myself longer having more time needed to get myself off.

Oh ................... plenty of lube helps too.
Age 69. RP March 2023. Sildenafil 50mg. Tri-Mix 20/30/2 @ 30 units. VED with Vacurect. Penile Rehab Program including, Vacuum Therapy, stretching, and routine masturbation. Married 38 years. Solo sex only.

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby still_crazy » Sun Dec 10, 2023 4:44 pm

Since my RALP (non nerve sparing) nearly a year ago, using a vibrator while flaccid is the only way I've been able to achieve an orgasm. I can get a great erection using injections, or a pump and a contraction ring, but the sensitivity is no longer there to reach a climax. Using the vibrator, while flaccid, gets me over the edge to a great release. I work it up and down the penis, but eventually concentrate on the frenulum area to reach the pleasure peak. Some water-based lube helps.
The Amazon link to the vibrator (G-Spot Vibrator): https://a.co/d/02SenRF

I've tried some of the men-specific vibrators, but none work as well as this simple, inexpensive one that can serve many uses.
Age 66. RALP Jan-2023. Non-nerve sparing.
VED exercise most days, Trimix T-106 (30-1-25), ~20 units.
Bending trauma around age 50, resulting in mild Peyronies.

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Re: Masturbating/Getting Off With a Flaccid Dick

Postby marlow13 » Mon Dec 11, 2023 12:12 am

gbeard60 wrote:I had robotic prostate surgery four months ago, and it's been interesting learning about my new dick. Masturbating used to take a few minutes basically one-handed; it now takes quite a bit longer and both hands -- one at the base of my cock and one focusing on the head. My nerves are in relatively good shape, but the ED is there. It helps if I pump for a while to get a semi and then take it from there. I used to masturbate to photos and stories, but now it's mostly videos. I read a message from a guy on another site who said he was fixated on cumshots in porn now that he produced none of his own, and I'm pretty much in the same situation. I can get it on with my wife with the help of Viagra, the pump and a cock ring, but frankly, it does more for her than it does for me;my joy in that is in making her reach orgasm(s). Masturbation seems a lot more pleasurable.

I understand this obsessions with cumshots after my prostate surgery. I'm glad to find out its not just me.
58 y/o PCA 18 on March 2017. Biopsy 8.6 Gleason. Diagnosed with Prostate Cancer June 2017. Robotic Prostectomy Aug 2017. .02 at Follow ups so far. Implanted on 9/6/19 with AMS 700 CX 21+2 RTE's by Dr.Dean Knoll Urology Associates Nashville, TN.


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