Implant and No Sex Wife

[Rider1400]

I’m just curious.

Can you share how you have been able to increase your size with your implant? I got implanted on 11/07/23. 18cm Titan. So any info on what I can do to increase size would be great. Thank you.

I want to share my advice I gave to someone else here in PMs about a similar situation with a wife who hasn't had sex in years:

Something I thought of today. A question I wanted to ask you -

Are you aware of the fact that cheating on your wife is totally and completely a fairly easy and do-able and realistically a totally fun choice? lol, like, really...that's my advice. I have used the cheating strategy throughout my life in a wide variety of different situations, and let me tell you, it's incredibly effective.

You heard about the Magnus Carlsen chess cheating scandal? And the poker cheating one with that Robbi Jade Lew chick? There's even a fishing tournament one now. Cheating seems to be en vogue these days.

Essentially everyone cheats in some way. Some people realize that and do it also. Why not?

Not saying to do it today. But worth pondering.

Don’t know if you realize this is a 5 month old post since any activity has happened. I can however help you with your question. First month after implant I was a little over an inch short. It was depressing although I had read that this is normal. Once I was cleared to activate, which was just 3 weeks for me, I started cycling 30 minutes twice a day. By the 3rd month I started the perito exercises along with ea pump up session. It’s not easy and at times can be a little painful and definitely very uncomfortable! You body will let you know when to stop or back off. It’s not a race but a marathon! It took 3-4 months before I saw any noticeable increase but by 6 months I was have way back to pre implant size. Within 10 months I was getting really. Lose and had actually increased in girth above my pre measurements. By a year it was all back and I gradually cut back on pumping. By 13 months I was completely maxed as I was emptying my resivour of fluid. That’s when I decided to just pump for sex or masterbation. So do your research and stay with the pumping and give it time. Don’t measure more than once a month or so and you’ll maybe see some incremental improvements. It’s slow. Hang in there.

[Musson]

I think the dont ask, don’t tell approach can work. However having a mistress or regular friend with benefits (FWB) is extremely stressful. If you are up for the secrecy and stress you should go for it. Personally I have decided, after several mistresses and FWBs, to simply pay for it. My choice is Asian massage parlors which are the most cost efficient, safest and have the most normal women ( which is relative). Once you get to k ow a provider who is not on a short term gig you can develop something of a friendship and see them on a regular basis. There is one provider fairly close to my house that I see 4 or 5 times a year for the last 10 years ( she owns the place). This is far less stressful than sneaking around and I’m still getting decent sex.

[2435tjklAS]

I’m just curious.

Can you share how you have been able to increase your size with your implant? I got implanted on 11/07/23. 18cm Titan. So any info on what I can do to increase size would be great. Thank you.

Of course! I was fairly "aggressive" with my exercises and I'll link my post for specifics, but I should first say I really do believe fears of losing size with implants should no longer be a concern. For a long time that's been the #1 patient complaint but size recovery is not even difficult. The research is very consistent that simply using a VED and some cycling for 15 or 30 minutes a day will get all your size back, and possibly a little more.

But if you're an excessive dude like me who tries too hard, here's some of what I know and some of what I did if you want to be absolutely sure your dick gets about as big as possible, and let's be honest, who doesn't want that?

One important point is that VED use before surgery is very important and likely required to get your size back, so I hope you knew that. Here's why:

When pre-operative VED is used, SPL could increase by a mean of 0.80
0.38 cm. In addition, the surgeon is provided with better opportunity to restore longer penile length that replicates an appearance more consistent with the patient’s natural erection. Ease of corporal dilation allows for an appropriate size cylinder to be inserted, and thus helps to maximize patient satisfaction post-operatively. There were no negative intraoperative complications associated with the use of pre-operative VED, and therefore, if patients have access to it, VEDs can safely be recommended. Future studies among larger samples will help assess the long-term outcomes and outline the role of VED as a valuable intervention prior to PP implantation.

Canguven, O., Talib, R. A., Campbell, J., De Young, L., El Ansari, W., & Al-Ansari, A. (2017). Is the daily use of vacuum erection device for a month before penile prosthesis implantation beneficial? A randomized controlled trial. Andrology, 5(1), 103–106. https://doi.org/10.1111/andr.12258

Where I first posted that if anyone wants to read discussions about it: viewtopic.php?f=6&t=18561&p=169469#p169469

I think the research is so incredibly obvious as to why it's necessary. If you're a 40, or 50, or 60, or whatever year old who's had ED so bad for years that he's getting an implant, your dick is not very healthy, and inches smaller than when you were a horny 22 year old. If the surgeon sticks an implant in your 60 year old dick, it won't be nearly as big as one that was exercised back to reasonable health. What VEDs do is recover and restore all this stuff explained in the research about sinusoidal spaces of cavernosal dick tissues and increase in cavernosal artery diameter with stimulated oxygenation of corpora and other stuff I'm not nearly smart enough to understand. There's mountains of medical research proving these are safe and effective, and here's anecdotal proof as well that I haven't posted is a while:



I also read VEDs seemed to be a lot more popular and recommended by urologists a few decades ago, but when Viagra gets released March 1998, men being lazy like men are relied on pills to get hard instead of wanting to put in effort. Viagra made your dicks smaller, huh.

I actually didn't use a VED before. Told the whole story of how that happened in that VED post I linked above at page 3 where I say "haha, well ty, though don't ever forget I'm..." Cliffs are basically my doctor never mentioned them to me, and that happened to not be a problem because when I was first introduced to implants I was abusing Viagra, taking up to 10 to 15 or 20 all 100mgs while on a tinder fling with zero standards having sex with morbidly-obese women because why not. My doctor said my usage wasn't "sustainable," of course, but one trick to getting your weak dick rock hard purely by medications and zero sensory feelings is it'll help restore your dick tissues also. Found research about how that works. So if you're taking any of those meds, don't take as many as me but taking a few more than usual will help get you stretched out.

For which VEDs worked for me, page 3 of my VED post goes over different kinds at "That's what got me to use one, and here's the ones I have used."

I think it's fair and reasonable advice and much of it gained from others here on FrankTalk. People like LeLuvs. And for good reason. They work and the price seems decent. I also can't get them to give me free stuff for recommending them.

For the rest of specifics of my recovery, here's my post with the details:
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=18385

...the important points are probably that I did/do exercise far more than normal or necessary, and I realize it wasn't required but if it's about the size of your dick I'm of the position that why the hell wouldn't you want to. I still haven't worn pants at home since I startled cycling in Dec 2021 so I try to always use one of the VEDs I have everywhere to put in effort often. I try to pump it to the maximum, if I can. My post goes over how 4 months in I did buy the Bathmate. Those are definitely a stronger device than most VEDs but it is fairly expensive and surely not needed.

I think that's about it. Sorry if I write way too much when I could have simply written, "use a VED before and after surgery every day, also do cycling and Perito's THE exercise, and you'll be all right."

For specifics on my original length being 8.75" and the accuracy of my current size being 9"-9.5", it was questioned in my post for how my 24cm implant would be capable of being that long, but I can tell you I believe I am being about as honest as any man would be when claiming what the size of his dick is (by that I mean the inherent problem of all men exaggerating the size of his dick, at least to some degree). But mine is what I can most accurately measure and I explained my reasons on page 6 of my "chronicles" you can find my explanation for my size at "This is the best and most honest answer..."

Maybe if a doctor measured it he'd find it to be 9.2" long. Whatever. The important thing is it gets hard and stays there.