Does your wife control if and when sex happens in your marriage?

[sogwap]

83% of respondents (both men and women) agreed women control if and when sex happens.

Here's the short 1 minute video
https://www.facebook.com/reel/310277395063310

What do you think truth or false?
Other Comments or suggestions even when your wife is not fully on board with your desires.

[Shock23]

Fortunately not so much in my 18yrs of marriage. It typically is always a joint agreement and at times we both are in same wavelength on when/if. However, I’d say she is a bit more of the submissive type, where it just isn’t her way to be the initiator, which I don’t mind at all.

We have 5 kids and I’ve been using Trimix regularly for about 2 years (2-3 times a week) now so there’s always a bit of planning. Adding the Trimix in didn’t really make anything more difficult. Typically the question is if we get all kids down would she be up for it that night, or morning sex before kids get up. So in that case I’m more of the ‘if’ and she is more of the ‘when’.

As of really just the past few months morning sex has been the majority of ‘when’ which I actually am starting to prefer. Just a little nudge and slow massage and she’s quickly ready to go. She’s a morning person and I’m definitely not typically…but if I have the green light I have no problem setting alarm about 15 min beforehand to get myself prepped and ready. Actually, had 2 sessions this morning about 20 min apart as the little guy was not ready to go down and she was all for another round. LOL

[Txagq8]

I’ll be brutally honest. If I’m in the mood I am the initiator.

If wife says she’s not. I don’t force myself on her.

I might pout. Or be snarky. Or not fix her-anything wheni get up for a
Snack during Gutfeld.

She was in the mood daily before kids. Post menopausal she doesn’t have the same drive. Still, when she’s in the mood it’s still great.

[dg_moore]

Ths problem with pills is that the woman is the only person who knows when it's 30 minutes before sex.

[cbinspok]

Can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve had to suck it up after my wife has agreed to sex and changed her mind last minute, “oh this show coming on is a good one” mean while the pill was kicking in… sence the implant, no pills TG but regardless of my behavior and kindnesses , just disappointed feelings remain. Trying to move on sexually.

[Lost Sheep]

Economics has an answer.

Sex within a monogamous marriage is perforce a monopoly. The profit motive in any monopoly is that scarcity increases profit. So, there is an incentive to increase the "price" (value) of the "commodity" (sex) by reducing the supply. Classic economics.

Put another way, "Familiarity breeds contempt." If sex is continuously available, it is regarded as less desirable, but if it is rare, it is regarded as more precious.

So, whether man or woman in a monogamous relationship, withholding sex may become an exercise in power.

Caveat:
This analysis and explanation does ignore the effects of love, respect and altruism, etc.
Edited to add: This post was done before watching the video, which does address the other interpersonal factors in the relationship. I note also that in a contentious/adversarial marriage/relationship, all bets are off.

[Old Guy]

If my wife reads this the answer is No. For everybody else the answer is most of the time Yes.

I get crabby when it's been a while. I do tend to be more of an asshole those times.
Lately I just set up our playroom, let her know it's up. Only certain days of the week though. Most of the time she agrees to it. She's a slow starter, but after the first orgasm (via fingers or tongue) she is all in.
Right now, activity has been limited due to my recent bladder scan. She is such a worrier that it might hurt me. Told her I'll be the judge of that. Doc says resume activity as tolerated. I'm tolerating, but the boys are ready to burst! Hoping to fix that tonight because it's one of the two days of the year (Anniversary/Birthday) I should be guaranteed woopie time.

[oldbeek]

In our old age I discovered my wife would really want it 1 day month. I would keep track of her cycle. Holly hell, on her day, all five kids could be scratching at the locked door or pounding on the bedroom windows and she would still want to fuck. There was no stopping her from getting it. Hmm, that day is drawing near She has been on hospice care for 9 months and is in a hospital bed. Last month she asked me to get into bed with her for some fondleing

[Shakey]

Years ago got my wife to agree two times a week. She got tired of me chasing her around so we made a commitment and we have been following this ever since. Tuesday - Thursday I get to schedule. Friday - Sunday her turn. Monday nothing. Both of us are in our late 60’s. Spontaneity gone in place of scheduling but quite satisfied.

[Zoso22]

For us she only controls who we get to have sex with. Between us she is pretty good with anytime I or her feel like it.