When to tell new Girlfriend

[trucxrule]

Find a good surgeon, get an implant and be a stud. Zero to hero.

This sounds like good advice even for me

[Anonymous2]

Find a good surgeon, get an implant and be a stud. Zero to hero.

This sounds like good advice even for me

I know somebody on this site, who wish's now that he never had the fucking thing done, I wont quote then reasons, but from what he says, it has not been that good.
Something to think about, sometimes its not that good.

[Andy425]

Find a good surgeon, get an implant and be a stud. Zero to hero.

This sounds like good advice even for me

I know somebody on this site, who wish's now that he never had the fucking thing done, I wont quote then reasons, but from what he says, it has not been that good.
Something to think about, sometimes its not that good.

Yes, I was going to make a general point about this but didn't. Now that you brought it up, I will.

I do not have an implant so I have no specific knowledge on them, but I have had 3 major surgeries in under 2 years.

All surgeries carry risk. The more complex the surgery the greater the risks. Surgeons rarely tell you much about any negatives up front. They will soft pedal any potential problems. They can vary from nasty infections, to nerve damage causing varying degrees of chronic pain or numbness for the rest of your life, to an annoying discomfort that may or may not ever go away, etc. etc.

Years ago I had what is usually considered a nearly risk-free vasectomy. Simple, done right in the doc's office, and he'd done something like 30,000 vasectomies throughout his long career. What could go wrong?

I'll spare you all the details but I had a discomfort in my left (not kidding) nut that wouldn't go away. It didn't really hurt but it was annoying. Eventually, after about two months, it did go away. But during that time I kicked myself in the ass for doing such a stupid thing. What happened to me was around a 1% chance or maybe less, don't remember. BUT IF YOU HAPPEN TO FALL INTO THAT 1%, THE STATISTICS WON'T MEAN A DAMNED THING TO YOU.

I can't imagine ever getting an implant for the above reasons more than anything else. From what I understand it's a fairly complicated operation, and once they do it your dick is ruined for life as far as getting an erection naturally.

Richard: What is the cause of your ED? If you had PC, I would wait a minimum of two years post-surgery to make a decision on an implant. I think somebody on this site said they had an implant within a few months of having a prostatectomy. The doctor who did that should be tarred and feathered. Given a year or two, maybe his erections would have come back to some degree, maybe with some help or whatever. He will never know now.

Food for thought.

[bob1138]

Richard,
I agree with Ed2013 about considering a Penile Implant.
Personally, I was implanted with the Coloplast Titan in December 2007 after developing ED Post-Prostatectomy in
February 2004.
The Implant completely corrected my ED and restored both my sex life and the emotional bond with my wife.
To say that it "restored my manhood" would not be an exaggeration.
I would do it again in a heart-beat!
That being said, the final decision is yours and yours alone just as in my case.
Please feel free to PM me any time if you would like to discuss the subject.
Best of Luck,
Bob

[Eugene]

I would tell your new GF soon and not wait. That is what I did. I was married for 37 years before my died. My wife stood by me with my ED (due to RP and radiation treatment). Once I started dating again, I decided to be up front about it and that worked well for me. My present GF for the past two years and a widow is very understanding and supportive. She considers it a non-issue for her and would be happy to marry me. In fact before her husband died his medical condition resulted in ED. On our first date she shared with me about her battle with breast cancer and I shared about my prostate cancer battle. We immediately had something in common. Later and before we decided to get intimate, I shared my ED story. It did not phase her one bit. She was actually surprised to learn that a man could have an orgasim, she mistakenly heard otherwise. I use Edex and a VD to get an erection and that has worked fairly well for me. But, I may consider an impalnt in the future.

[Richard1954]

Hey guys,
Just checking in to give you an update. Today 2/2/14 I sent an email to my lady friend and explained my ED problem, a lot of thought went into the email as to cover the subject but not to be to specific. One of the many statements was " I tell you this now because I did not feel it would be right for you to find this out latter. This very well could be a deal breaker for you but I must tell you."

I sent it at 8am and got a call around 4pm, she said it was no big deal. Time will tell, although this is a step in the right direction. She could just be being nice to me and will start letting me down or finding reason to break up.
This without a dough was the toughest email I have ever had to write.

I am on Bimix and it seem to work well at home without a partner. If I am able to perform the first time with this new girl friend I will have reached a milestone that for many many years was taken for granted. I'm in high hope that things will work as well with a partner as with out.
Thanks Guys
Richard

[ohohiakane]

Richard....
My bet is that you handled the situation perfectly. Putting it in writing... you had a chance to re-phrase the problem if needed, disclosing the facts without leaving her wondering if the future could end up with never having sex.

It seems that this gal is going to be the kind that will stand by you, thick or thin..... she certainly responded well, and my guess it that she will continue to make inquiries about details... and you should be forth-right in responding truthfully.

Hoping it all works out well !

Bill

[Richard1954]

Richard....
My bet is that you handled the situation perfectly. Putting it in writing... you had a chance to re-phrase the problem if needed, disclosing the facts without leaving her wondering if the future could end up with never having sex.

It seems that this gal is going to be the kind that will stand by you, thick or thin..... she certainly responded well, and my guess it that she will continue to make inquiries about details... and you should be forth-right in responding truthfully.

Hoping it all works out well !

Bill

Thanks Bill for your input,
I hope to get a chance to be with her next week. We will have to see.
I'll let you know how things go down or hopefully go up!
Richard

[tomas1]

Richard, I agree that it seems like you may have found an understanding, nonjudgmental woman who values what's above your neck as much as what's below it.
I think you 2 are off to a good start.
Good luck in the future.

[Richard1954]

Rethinking things.
I wrote my girlfriend a email about my ED on Sunday(see post above).
I had a chance to get intimate with her the night before, timing was spot on and things were going nice and HOT.
If I could have a redo!
What I would have like to have done was to have had great sex with her on Saturday and then sent the same email to her on my ED on Sunday.
Now with that said I did not have my Bimix with me or condoms that Saturday. You might say I was not prepared and you would be right!
Sure would like to have a redo for that Saturday.
Dang this ED!
What ya think guys?
Redo please!
Richard