When to tell new Girlfriend

[Andy425]

Richard: I wish you the best of luck.

FWIW: There's a local woman, 12 years younger than me and decent looking, that I've known for a few years. She is now recently unattached and we've been texting and emailing for a few weeks. But I have not pulled the trigger for a number of reasons.

The one, major, over-riding reason for not going forward is my limp dick. Plus it would be a lot of work. Heh, I think I burned myself out with 2 wives and countless GFs. Plus I think she drinks too much for me. I used to drink a lot too, but can't and don't want to anymore so I don't really want to hang around a barfly.

Life is so exciting.

[endlesslove]

Hi Andy,
From a woman's point of view I think that it is totally unnecessary to discuss it until you seem to be heading in the direction of intimacy. No use in giving TMA. I think in the meantime you need to look into other forms of help for your ED. There is a great site on Prostate Pointers.org called PCAI (Prostate Cancer and Intimacy). This is the place to get first hand advice on the pills, injections, muse, penis VED pumps etc. You would be more confident if you knew that you had a reliable way to achieve an erection when the needed time comes.

My husband had prostate cancer and we tried it all. We used the VED- Bonro Vacurect for a number of years with pretty nice results.I was fun to watch him pump up...kind of a form of foreplay. Tried the pills, the injections and didn't do well with either.

Husband is having a penile implant done next week. He will be 62 in March/ Not sure if you are even close in age. This decision was come after much research and the help from men and women on PCAI. You need to check them out if you haven't yet. Also Yahoo groups has an implant support group.

Sex is part of who we are and is essential to our overall health. Don't withdraw and say you will just take the easy way and avoid a new relationship. You will be cheating yourself and some sweet lady just waiting to love you the way you are.

Best Wishes,
Endlesslove (for my husband)

[Richard1954]

Hey Richard here,
Well after email the new girlfriend about my ED I have been given the cold shoulder from her. Will not even call, this is a long distance relationship of about 1.5 hours. She said at the time no big deal. Yea right! I'll keep you posted what happens next. I guess it's better to find out about her now instead of latter.
Richard

[qcswral]

I'm single myself in my late 50's...dating...I'm on injections for past year....first had excellent results...and still kind of do..but in the opposite direction..I just sick of the whole thing...either can't hard, or get to hard and can't cum....cum to soon or don't cum at all..It's made sex a chore....and without an understanding partner it makes it worse.....if you find the woman who does it for you...it's a real dilhema...

[Andy425]

I'm single myself in my late 50's...dating...I'm on injections for past year....first had excellent results...and still kind of do..but in the opposite direction..I just sick of the whole thing...either can't hard, or get to hard and can't cum....cum to soon or don't cum at all..It's made sex a chore....and without an understanding partner it makes it worse.....if you find the woman who does it for you...it's a real dilhema...

Yup, as I've said before, none of this is natural. What you describe above is part of the reason I don't really pursue women anymore. And I know one that is ripe to be plucked.

Starting a relationship in this condition seems like a lose-lose deal. Sure, there are probably women out there who would be fine with it, but how do you know which one it is? And she would probably be unattractive anyway, lol, and considering that I would never ask her out on a first date anyway.

Having a LTR with a woman and THEN having this problem is a whole different thing.

[jerrywayne]

to all of you guys get implanted I did and it was the best thing I have ever done ,delt with ed for 20 years ,would do it again in an instant

[jryancey44]

You probably have vein leakage like I did,try not lay on your back that helps, it is a gravity thing, and use a good band that also helps. If you are under 50 they will tie them,you will be good as new. You need to have a vascular test to see. They check blood flow and leakage that is the only way to see exactly what is causing your ED. Good luck!
Jim

Guys, at what point in a new relationship should I tell a new Girlfriend I have ED?

The last relationship I had, I was deep into a our relationship she found out about my ED when I could not get an erection (was not on Bimix) and she was gone. Just like that, it was devastating and of course this makes the ED even worst.

I am on Bimix and having fair or less success (that's another question). I want to be completely honest with my new girlfriend.

So the 2 questions are.
1) When do I tell her?
2)How is the best way to tell her and how much detail should I go into?
Thanks for the support and info.
Richard

[Richard1954]

You probably have vein leakage like I did,try not lay on your back that helps, it is a gravity thing, and use a good band that also helps. If you are under 50 they will tie them,you will be good as new. You need to have a vascular test to see. They check blood flow and leakage that is the only way to see exactly what is causing your ED. Good luck!
Jim

Guys, at what point in a new relationship should I tell a new Girlfriend I have ED?

The last relationship I had, I was deep into a our relationship she found out about my ED when I could not get an erection (was not on Bimix) and she was gone. Just like that, it was devastating and of course this makes the ED even worst.

I am on Bimix and having fair or less success (that's another question). I want to be completely honest with my new girlfriend.

So the 2 questions are.
1) When do I tell her?
2)How is the best way to tell her and how much detail should I go into?
Thanks for the support and info.
Richard

Thanks for the info Jim,
Are you saying if I am over 50 they will not tie the Vein?
I am 60. It does sound like it could be that. Do you know how a Vein tears or breaks?
Thannks,
Richard

[Andy425]

Thanks for the info Jim,
Are you saying if I am over 50 they will not tie the Vein?
I am 60. It does sound like it could be that. Do you know how a Vein tears or breaks?
Thannks,
Richard

Hey Richard, how are things going? Anything new with the women?

I had a date a month ago, may take her out again. She does know that I had PC; what she knows about the life-long side effects of treatment I have no clue.

Why do you have ED? (I don't think you ever mentioned why in this thread.)

[Charlie999]

Richard - consider an implant. I am 19 days post op right now, and this has been easy as a walk in the park. No problems and very little pain, and I might mention that I turned 82 years old today. I can appreciate age for the life experience, but I don't dwell on it. I still work six days a week, and life is good. In just a little while, I believe it's going to get a lot better. Thank God for all these wonderful blessings.

Blessings to all

Charlie