A little confused

[bumpintheroad]

Maybe someone can shed some light on this. I am almost 3 years 6 months post surgery for prostate cancer. I have asked before about the use of porn as helping with erections. I was very sexually active with my wife of 35 years right up to surgery. Why is it that porn will produce an erection( not as hard as pre-op) but an useable erection that if I wanted to I could masturbate to orgasm? With that being said why does this not happen when my wife and I are intimate and I have to use the VED for an useable erection? My feelings about porn are mixed but I know that it can give me an erection that at least is close to the " good ole days". You know it would have been great if the urologist(s) would maybe talk to us about this or at least let you know that it may take more intense visual stimulation than before. Any ideas or suggestions? Thanks

[jerrywayne]

because when you are watching porn theirs is no pressure to perform ,as it is when your are with your .

[6gun 44 mag]

Just a little ways past your post is one titled "the problems of porn and ED"--I think that was it. Read that info---the article claims to show how porn, over time, and too frequent or too much use, can do a lot of harm to natural things built into a mans body as to erections and regular sex. I took note of a few things there that were very interesting to me at least.

[Anonymous2]

Hi Instead of masturbating to porn, just hold all those images in you brain and use them when it comes to having sex with your wife, now is this a private thing or does your wife know?
If your wife accepts your porn as a way to help her sex life? have you thought of having it on why your trying to have sex, as that extra libido booster, try is without the sound on, and try some light music.
Its just thoughts.
Take it you have been through erection drugs?. I've not been through what you have had, but did have ED, and if you do research ED your slowly find out there is a whole lots goes on to get a good erection, so apart from stress, anxiety, high cholesterol, HBP, diabetes,(with these first 5 its the meds that do real damage) meds, weight, self image, alcohol, smoking, your age and a couple more.
But for me I'm a great believer that its our blood get that working right and your about 2/3 of the way to getting good erections, and there is lots of simple things that will help there, there are 4 posts on site that may help you, but google these titles, you get to then quicker.
DRUGS VERSUS HERBS, HERBS MY CHOICE
same again but just add , DAILY INTAKE
NOHARDS HERB LIST WITH LINKS
NOHARDS HERBS FOR ED, PART 2
Just see what you think if you want give them a try, but do remember that we are all different, so you can subtract and add.

Good Luck

NOWHARD