ED and Starting a Relationship

[anotherguy]

Ok, so my situation currently is that I have ED to the point to where usually it's not really useful for intercourse and I'm going to get a penile implant at some point later, somehow. Anyway, I'd really like to be in a relationship. A lot of times there are girls/ladies that make themselves available to me, for lack of a better way of saying it, especially when they get to know me a bit. Btw, no I'm not naive about how girls are lol, but I never try to take it further than being friendly and also maybe showing interest because of my situation.

Anyway, I'd like to hear from any guys that have ED (to any degree) what you're experience(s) have been like getting into a relationship under this situation or even what your experience has been developing ED while in a relationship.

Thanks

[dg_moore]

If I were contemplating a relationship with somebody new, at some early point I would be completely honest and tell her about the ED, how it impacts your sexual ability, and what your plans are for treatment (implant in the future). If this puts her off, then so be it - she's not the one for you. I developed ED after being married for years, and had good results with pills for a long time. But when they quit working, I had no success at all with injections. The years of fumbling around with ED finally took their toll, and my wife said "This isn't working. Let's just give it up.", and since I was as frustrated as she was, we did. I got an implant as a last resort some time after that, but it was too late - we had been asexual for too long and we never used it. If you really need an implant, get it sooner than later - waiting doesn't do you any good. Time is not your friend.

[cwatt1]

One thing to keep in mind is that sex can be good without penetration. There are all kinds of ways to please a partner. I agree with dg_moore; be honest about your situation and let the woman know that you still would like to be intimate even though you can't penetrate.

[thunderball]

If the pills aren't working, have you tried tri-mix? There was a bit of a learning curve for me to get the technique down, but I really enjoy the 19-year-boy quality erections. Injection is painless, rock solid erection in about 10 to 20 minutes from injection.

As the poster above said, time is not on your side, you need to get the ED sorted out as soon as possible.

You can't sit around and wait or be passive. You need to get very pro-active with you doc.

Figure out what will work to get you reliable penetration quality hard-ons as soon as you can. Also agree honesty is the best policy with a new girlfriend.

[6gun 44 mag]

No body appreciates cry babies---but I feel like a cry coming on too when I let my mind think too far ahead. I'm married to a woman a bit older than me, and when ED took control of my performance abilities she took a somewhat aceptance attitude for herself. We don't fool around very much these past few years. Trimix and pills have not been reliable for me at all. My fears and sorrows come into play when I imagine what life would be like if I outlive her? I still want to be going strong---and what if I met a lady who expected some action? Vain imagination I know--but that story has worries in it for me. Maybe I should get an implant--at 70 I might surprise hell out of myself for now, and not worry about the future either.

[Slayer1962]

If in doubt just do it. besides a few weeks pain those with severe ED do not have a choice!
I went thru it all for years and finally did it. I am smaller and less diameter but hard as heck!

[farmallfarmer]

70 is not to old for an implant if you have the desire to use it. I just got one and I am 72.

[ontopher469]

Hi farmallfarmer, this is your old chat room buddy, i.e., ontopher469!

I'm surprised no one mentioned giving your lady clitoris oral sex!!!

It's medically well known that fewer than 20% of women have orgasm from a man's penetration. So, women don't really care if you have ED but whether you're going to give her an orgasm. Oral on her clitoris, using your mouth, is guaranteed to give her a wild continuous orgasm. Once she goes into a major orgasm, you can get her to do anything, i.e., suck on your penis, suck on your testicles, etc. for as long as you want.

Men, come on.

[dg_moore]

Hi farmallfarmer, this is your old chat room buddy, i.e., ontopher469!

I'm surprised no one mentioned giving your lady clitoris oral sex!!!

It's medically well known that fewer than 20% of women have orgasm from a man's penetration. So, women don't really care if you have ED but whether you're going to give her an orgasm. Oral on her clitoris, using your mouth, is guaranteed to give her a wild continuous orgasm. Once she goes into a major orgasm, you can get her to do anything, i.e., suck on your penis, suck on your testicles, etc. for as long as you want.

Men, come on.

I think this depends on your wife's inclination. When my relationship with my wife first became intimate, I was a little surprised to find that she hated receiving oral, and really didn't enjoy foreplay all that much. She did enjoy intercourse, though, and had good orgasms. When finished, she was always in the shower in about 30 seconds. She was never into cuddling. But we still had an active, satisfying sex life. I have no complaints - it was great while it lasted.

My point is that women are not all alike, and what works for some doesn't work for others.

[Andy425]

Hi farmallfarmer, this is your old chat room buddy, i.e., ontopher469!

I'm surprised no one mentioned giving your lady clitoris oral sex!!!

It's medically well known that fewer than 20% of women have orgasm from a man's penetration. So, women don't really care if you have ED but whether you're going to give her an orgasm. Oral on her clitoris, using your mouth, is guaranteed to give her a wild continuous orgasm. Once she goes into a major orgasm, you can get her to do anything, i.e., suck on your penis, suck on your testicles, etc. for as long as you want.

Men, come on.

I think this depends on your wife's inclination. When my relationship with my wife first became intimate, I was a little surprised to find that she hated receiving oral, and really didn't enjoy foreplay all that much. She did enjoy intercourse, though, and had good orgasms. When finished, she was always in the shower in about 30 seconds. She was never into cuddling. But we still had an active, satisfying sex life. I have no complaints - it was great while it lasted.

My point is that women are not all alike, and what works for some doesn't work for others.

I agree. If climaxing was all that mattered, then everybody could just masturbate.

I'm going on a blind double-date this Friday. First date I've had in over 3 years since I had PC. I am not really looking forward to it, but I told my buddy to set it up. I'm sure I can come up with some excuse to not see her again.