Can man be happy with sexless life?

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Bjones
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Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby Bjones » Sun Feb 12, 2017 7:10 pm

I have 2 issues, low sex drive and ED, sometimes quite bad..even if I fix my ED issues which could get expensive I will still not be a normal sexual guy..I'd maybe have sex once a week and libido is difficult to treat unless it's a testosterone issue which mine isn't..I was wondering and since this forum exists I assume the answer is no..yet I ask, can a man live a fulfilling happy life without sex? Assuming they have a sex drive of course..sex is such a strong biological drive in people especially men..it helps us take care of our body and further our career and social status..

In my experience I can't live a fulfilling life without sex..there's just a big feeling that im missing out on a very important part of the human experience..yet on the other hand I save myself a lot of drama and stress if I don't chase women for sex..many guys have told me im the lucky one for having low sex drive because they put up with a lot of drama and money issues( plus the effort) just to maintain regular sex with their wife or girlfriend..

Thoughts?

moreorless
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby moreorless » Sun Feb 12, 2017 7:22 pm

why do you have low drive sex? Maybe it is linked with your ED
I have noticed in myself that since i have ED my drive sex is lower

PFracture

Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby PFracture » Sun Feb 12, 2017 9:14 pm

Bjones wrote:I have 2 issues, low sex drive and ED, sometimes quite bad..even if I fix my ED issues which could get expensive I will still not be a normal sexual guy..I'd maybe have sex once a week and libido is difficult to treat unless it's a testosterone issue which mine isn't..I was wondering and since this forum exists I assume the answer is no..yet I ask, can a man live a fulfilling happy life without sex? Assuming they have a sex drive of course..sex is such a strong biological drive in people especially men..it helps us take care of our body and further our career and social status..

In my experience I can't live a fulfilling life without sex..there's just a big feeling that im missing out on a very important part of the human experience..yet on the other hand I save myself a lot of drama and stress if I don't chase women for sex..many guys have told me im the lucky one for having low sex drive because they put up with a lot of drama and money issues( plus the effort) just to maintain regular sex with their wife or girlfriend..

Thoughts?


You just say you don't have a sex drive, then complain you won't be able to have a fullfuling life without it. It bothers you, or it doesn't? lol and you can have sex without having a girlfriend and also, you only put up with the drama if you want to. Theres a huge confusion in your post that to me, shows more underlying issues in your person and you should address those as well.

Bjones
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby Bjones » Mon Feb 13, 2017 5:33 am

PFracture wrote:
Bjones wrote:I have 2 issues, low sex drive and ED, sometimes quite bad..even if I fix my ED issues which could get expensive I will still not be a normal sexual guy..I'd maybe have sex once a week and libido is difficult to treat unless it's a testosterone issue which mine isn't..I was wondering and since this forum exists I assume the answer is no..yet I ask, can a man live a fulfilling happy life without sex? Assuming they have a sex drive of course..sex is such a strong biological drive in people especially men..it helps us take care of our body and further our career and social status..

In my experience I can't live a fulfilling life without sex..there's just a big feeling that im missing out on a very important part of the human experience..yet on the other hand I save myself a lot of drama and stress if I don't chase women for sex..many guys have told me im the lucky one for having low sex drive because they put up with a lot of drama and money issues( plus the effort) just to maintain regular sex with their wife or girlfriend..

Thoughts?


You just say you don't have a sex drive, then complain you won't be able to have a fullfuling life without it. It bothers you, or it doesn't? lol and you can have sex without having a girlfriend and also, you only put up with the drama if you want to. Theres a huge confusion in your post that to me, shows more underlying issues in your person and you should address those as well.


I said I had A very low sex drive..I rarely want to have sex and I've turned down many experiences with women due to it..it definitely bothers me and leaves a huge void in my life but I also realize I do not waste any time, money or effort chasing women so there's a tradeoff being this way..so it does bother me in ways but I try to look at the benefit of being this way..overall i think I'd much rather be a normal sexual guy, seems more fulfilling..much easier to make relationships work lol..being this way I really don't mind bring single but then the void hits..

Bjones
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby Bjones » Mon Feb 13, 2017 5:35 am

moreorless wrote:why do you have low drive sex? Maybe it is linked with your ED
I have noticed in myself that since i have ED my drive sex is lower


Im sure since ED appeared my sex drive is lower but even before I never was horny, well rarely..my testosterone levels are actually above average so that's not the culprit

PFracture

Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby PFracture » Mon Feb 13, 2017 6:03 am

I said I had A very low sex drive..I rarely want to have sex and I've turned down many experiences with women due to it..it definitely bothers me and leaves a huge void in my life but I also realize I do not waste any time, money or effort chasing women so there's a tradeoff being this way..so it does bother me in ways but I try to look at the benefit of being this way..overall i think I'd much rather be a normal sexual guy, seems more fulfilling..much easier to make relationships work lol..being this way I really don't mind bring single but then the void hits..


What you really need to do is go to a sexual medicine center, and address the problem head on. Or, you can, sit there and, do nothing.

dg_moore
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby dg_moore » Mon Feb 13, 2017 7:47 am

Many people live happy lives without sex. I am one of them, but I'm a lot older than you. As was already mentioned, you should find a qualified expert in mens' sexual health - not just a random doc - and get a thorough evaluation.
Dave, 80, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer (failed Sept 2020) - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.

CTR5000
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby CTR5000 » Mon Feb 13, 2017 10:28 am

Other guys here have commented on other aspects of your questions, I just want to comment on one:

"Bjones wrote:
I have 2 issues, low sex drive and ED, sometimes quite bad..even if I fix my ED issues which could get expensive I will still not be a normal sexual guy."


I like that you say "could get expensive"... some treatments may. And your insurance coverage is of course a major factor. Viagra, Cialis and Levitra were all limiting for me due to their cost. For a few years I actually had a pharmacist I was faithful and loyal to, and him to me. He filled those scripts at cost for me. Still, not cheap! Those all stopped working for me, which isn't all that uncommon. I switched to injectables: Caverject or its generic: Edex. (And along with these I also used a penile pump on the days that were too close to a recent injection in order for me to inject again.) Depending on whatever mood my insurance company was in, and the moods of the pharmaceutical companies, either Caverject or Edex could be less expensive than the other in any given month. Otherwise, they acted identically for me. (In fact, I actually liked the Edex Injection System more than Caverject's. The Edex syringe and mixing was easier to use, and much more portable to pack for vacations or whatever.) But these were never "cheap" either... but MAYBE a bit less than pills. And then, alas, they stopped working for me too. I'd get a fairly good LOOKING erection but not an all that useful one. It wasn't hard enough to penetrate and even that semi was gone within 20 minutes. And this was on the "highest" recommended dose of 40 mcg. I gave up... on pills and injectables. But researched and looked into something that was around long before Viagra... an implant. Mine will have its 2nd anniversary in me this April, 2017. And I LOVE it!! As my husband tells "some" of our friends, (yes, I'm gay) if he was just meeting me now, he'd have no clue I have an implant. In my first appointment with my new urologist, he said he COULD put me on "Pentamix" -- a 5 drug injectable. But he said that too would work for a few months and then "peter out" on me. (Okay, pun intended!) He said the only real choices left for me after all the things I'd used previously was a penile implant... or live with things the way they are. I immediately said, "Do it! I want one!" And that he'd install in me "the Cadillac" of implants. (When I shared this with friends some asked, "Is he installing an Escalade?!" I had to be honest and reply, "There's no way an Escalade would fit in what I have down there!" Now, an AMS 700 LGX is part of me... and to respond to your exact comment regarding expense: It didn't cost me a single cent. Hospital, Surgery, cost of implant itself... all covered! Now again, Insurance comes into play big time. I have Medicare which covered 80% of it. And since I meet my deductible within the first month of the year, the entire balance is paid by our secondary insurance. I have a feeling I'm older than you (62 now but have had ED due to venous leakage since my mid-30's.) You may not be eligible for Medicare at this stage of your life. But ask your insurance carrier what your bottom line would come to. It doesn't hurt to ask.

And as far as that Escalade... I think something got mixed up. I'll swear he installed a Maserati in me! The "LGX" model in the AMS 700 series stands for "Length and Girth eXpansion"... and it really does! I have a tad bit more of both compared to before!

I sincerely hope this at least gives you more to think about, Bjones. Oh... and my sex drive... it's WAY UP now too and that's not a pun! Seriously, now that my equipment works, I FEEL more sensations and WANT MORE OF THEM. I never have to think or worry about being able to perform now so perhaps my previous ED just had me not caring all that much. After all, that's pretty much the definition of low libido.

Bjones
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby Bjones » Mon Feb 13, 2017 3:03 pm

dg_moore wrote:Many people live happy lives without sex. I am one of them, but I'm a lot older than you. As was already mentioned, you should find a qualified expert in mens' sexual health - not just a random doc - and get a thorough evaluation.


I've been trying to tackle my low sex drive and ED by going to endocrinologists to see if it's a hormonal issue but so far, im fine across the board..I was hoping my t levels were low as that would be a rather easy fix but nope..

Looks like I'll have to start looking at strictly the ED..so, finding a qualified expert in men sexual health is what I need to do first..i should have done this years go

dg_moore
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Re: Can man be happy with sexless life?

Postby dg_moore » Mon Feb 13, 2017 3:58 pm

ED and libido can be very complicated, and can be affected by many different factors. Finding the right doctor is the first step toward getting a cure, or at least an accurate diagnosis. Best of luck to you.
Dave, 80, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer (failed Sept 2020) - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
Life is not the way it's supposed to be, it's the way it is.


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