Xomanow wrote:RichardTheFrog wrote: I'm young enough (30) for any girl in my age range to probably think it's weird. It certainly makes me a bit of an oddity.
Richard, you know the saying...."when life hands you lemons, make lemonade out of them".......
It's true, at your age you will be an oddity to some girls....but you can use that to your advantage if you apply some other personality characteristics......with an implant you will be a new man physically, and you will have confidence.....once the anxiety of ED is gone, you can then concentrate on strengthening up other areas of yourself and your personality.....I know that this may be a little deep because you have to soul search within and that ain't easy at such a young age (believe me I know).....but you're out of your 20's and on your way to becoming,....well......older, and we need to evolve in order to survive....I don't know you or what your true personality is like or what characteristics you have.....from reading your posts I surmise (and this is conjecture so if I'm wrong, my whole dissertation here means shit) you're eager and a bit on the impulsive side.....you seem to want to rush into things head first (pardon the pun) and I do not say these things in a derogatory way but that's how I read you......
Being single all of my life, this is what I have experienced......in my 30's I ran with a large group of single guys & girls....there were no STDs in those days and everybody ran wild trying to fuck anybody and everybody.....especially out at the beach where I and many others had weekend summer shares (during the week we partied in clubs in NYC).....so there was a large pussy pool and a lot of competition.....most of my guy friends were fairly aggressive and approached girls in the same way.....so, a pretty girl would have several guys unloading all of their ammunition at her at one time.....after awhile this becomes a boring, preDICKtable scenario for her because it's always the same and these guys are easy to read......so all of a sudden, the guy who is an oddity, piques her interest......
I've never been good at coming up to a girl/woman (cold) with a straight obvious line....I was never smooth like that and I just didn't have that kind of personality.....I was always the oddity, a slight oddity, not a weirdo....always the lower key guy (not a wallflower) with a humorous comment from left field.....and this was not my game plan, this is just how I was......but I learned that this worked.....women are drawn to "mystery men"......they're drawn because all of the other schmucks are a dime a dozen and she can have anyone of them at anytime....but the odd guy (you have to be good odd), well, she's curious about what his deal is and will find out by becoming intimate with him....and it's not just the pretty girl......girls travel in groups and the pretty girl always has attractive girls (and plain girls) in her circle.....don't rule them out....there were times when the plain girl knocked my socks off in bed more than the others, and more often than not, they were more open & fun than the pretty princess.....now, while my guy friends were banging and running, or getting shot down, I was slowly having great intense sex with girls who were more open to (and with me) than the guys who pitched their lines, blew, & ran.....I was the enterprising Captain Quirk...
......one very important note here......you have to make girls laugh.....if you make them laugh their clothes will come off faster for you than the handsome gym fit guy with no sense of humor.....look at any online dating site and see what girls are looking for......they all (most) want to laugh......So, to tie all this in.....you are the oddity by default now, for better or worse....embrace it and make it work for you....once a girl views you as unique, the implant is much easier for her to wrap her mind around it (as well as her mouth).....you may not want to announce it right out of the gate (I have that same dilemma) but after a couple of times, once you've been intimate, it won't be a shock.....just a curiosity.....unless of course you perceive that she is an open person and feel comfortable in letting the cat out of the bag at the very beginning......so, time to regroup and consider how you are going to handle your new self......go get em'.......
