Psychological or Not ?

[Flannigan]

Here's my question. If I wake up a couple times a night with a rock hard erection but then can't seem to get hard in the bedroom when I am most definitely attracted to my GF...does that mean that my ED is all psychological ?

Why can't I keep my rock hard night time erections in the bedroom ? It's frustrating the hell out of me and my GF

[treetop]

I found this on the web, some other studies also.
No they are different it seems....

as different as night and day.
Submitted by gary on Mon, 2011-11-28 22:05
This study and others say that nighttime erections are dependent on testosterone, but day time erections- are largely androgen independent. Which means day time erections involve a different system - the brain and dopamine.

They gave hypogonadal men (low T) testosterone replacement and it increased night time erections , but didn’t make a big difference when watching porn or erectile response to visual erotic stimuli (VES)
https://www.reuniting.info/node/9854
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1 ... 1967.x/pdf

TT

[treetop]

Another observation...
I have been trying out Cialis.. 25mg every 3 or 4 days.
I have had an erection around 2 to 4am every morning...
That never happens.

If I watch porn I can also get an erection. So far it is working.
Not sure this helps.. but my morning erections are usually better than what I do with porn.

[Flannigan]

Thanks again Treetop. As usual you have some helpful info here. I just can't figure out why if my dick physically works and I can get erections then how the hell can I stimulate that other side of my brain to get it working in the bedroom ? It's frustrating as shit.

[treetop]

I am with you there!!

I have even at times with my gf .. have that morning wood and start sex. Usually it will stay, but sometimes it is like I am doing nothing. It just shrinks to nothing when I am trying.

So frustrating.!!

[Greg1956]

I have the same situation. Mine is caused by a venous leak. When I am still and in the right position, blood flows into my dock and stays there giving me a rock hard erection. In fact, now at 61 years I think they maybe the hardest of my life. Unfortunately, with a venous leak, as soon as I move it goes limpso those great erections are of no use. The only positive for me is being told once and for all the problem is not in my head. It was a great turning point for my wife to hear that my problem was a leak, not a lack of desire for her.

[dcmusc]

This has me perplexed as well.

[DaveKell]

I remember well my first experience with ED like it was five minutes ago instead of a little over 20 years. My wife and I were booked into a bed and breakfast for a weekend anniversary get away following my recent recovery from a sigmoid colectomy (the last one fourth of my large intestine removal). My dick wouldn't respond at all, it had NEVER failed before with my very attractive well built wife. I was terrified and enraged. My wife shrugged it off as maybe it was too soon after my surgery even though we never had this problem on about 10 prior surgeries.

I spent the rest of the weekend withdrawn and confused... and very much worried. The pattern that followed for much of the 20 years after that was maybe 2 times out of 10 we tried I could just barely manage a hard on that would last long enough for very brief sex. My wife had to be on top because as soon as I would move from laying on my back the hard on would disappear. It got into my head in a massive way. I went from a suicidal phase to constantly wondering if being with another woman could get me hard for successful sex. I never tried to find out. My wife and I eventually had an unspoken agreement that we wouldn't try anymore because it frustrated us both too much and my anger was too much to endure. That to me is how ED becomes psychological.

During my pre implant consultation, while giving my surgical history, the uro told me a high percentage of men who have a sigmoid colectomy develop untreatable ED due to nerve and tissue damage. I finally got to ease my wife's long standing concern that it wasn't either of our faults. With just a little less than 3 weeks until I should be given the good to go for sex, we are both experiencing a new mindset. We have an expectation of a bedrock foundation of marriage being restored to us. My calcified attitude is melting away as well as all the resentment of wasted, unfulfilling years in our marriage we've endured and still stayed together through. Life is going to be very good again soon.

[Flannigan]

Davekell...thanks for sharing. It's always a scary and unnerving event the first few times your dick doesn't work as it should. I have no serious medical issues that I know of and I have had a lot of blood work done and many visits to many doctors. All in all...I seem to be pretty healthy and I am in decent shape....so why the ED at age 46 ? None of the doctors can offer any decent reasons for it either. It does start to make you wonder if it's just in your head. I am glad to hear that your wife stuck by you all this time and I hope that your new bionic weapon works as good if not better than before so you can rekindle that important connection. Thankfully I have an understanding girlfriend that is willing to stay with me and work with me while I muddle my way through this thing called ED and try and figure out the best solution to this perplexing problem. She is an awesome gal. Right now the Trimix is working but it definitely removes the romance from the relationship. It's a good thing my girl doesn't really need the romance and just likes to get it on