Postby AmansinCali » Fri Oct 07, 2022 2:11 pm
This is all very interesting and thanks for sharing, I think it helps all of us understand our women better.
We have been married for 55 years, in our early years my wife did not cum at all, she was honest about it, but I could never figure it out. She claims she had never masturbated before or after marriage, then two things happened that changed everything.
My wife's mother always accused her of having sex in high school when she wasn't, but it left a scare on her. My wife was inexperienced when we married, she 21, me 23, so I had to "train her." (for you young guys, that's the way it used to be) She never refused to have sex with me, she said she always enjoyed it even though she didn't cum. Then the first event happened, and her mother passed, this I believe had a subconscious liberation for her because her attitude toward sex really changed. The second event was we had a brief separation and during that brief time she told me she masturbated for the first time in her life. (I find that hard to believe, but I think she was being honest) After those two events, happening very close together, she changed completely and began to cum every time we had sex. In that aspect, I think women have to learn how to cum on their own, I don't think she had known how to cum. I know in a lot of women's self-help sex books they say for the women to learn their bodies and to learn to masturbate.
As we aged sex became more routine, loss of flexibility and hip problems for my wife, but way more pleasurable, we begin with mutual masturbation with lots of silicone lube and that is continuous until she has an earth shaking, long orgasm, sometimes on her clit and other times inside. I prefer to keep it focused on the clit because I want it to feel different when enter her. When I enter her she holds back her orgasm until I cum then we cum together. I know she can control it because I can feel her clinch down as my excitement builds and she knows when I am ready to cum, I am sure it is a Kegel type of clinching, but it works for her every time. On a few occasions when she is really turned on she "slips" and has one before I cum, but then she always joins me when I cum, though this is rare.
She has always said having orgasms are not important to her, but she admits liking them a lot when she does. She explains it by saying, "I don't have balls and a hard on that has to be satisfied," I think she is probably correct.
She had always given me head, usually while she recovers from her first orgasm, she says it excites her and she likes for me to cum in her mouth. I limit that because our favorite is cumming together, sometimes we accomplish that by me rubbing her clit as she goes down on me and then if that happens, we usually cum at the same time. That is OK once in a while because I still love cumming in her pussy.
My frustration continues to be that she does not like me to go down on her. I am pretty sure it is because she never feels she is clean enough, if I am fortunate to go down on her she won't kiss me for the duration. She does not like her smell on my dick or my lips! If I could change anything it would be that she accepts and even demands oral sex. We both enjoy me shaving her and if I am going to get oral, it is after I have shaved her and she washes up.
I realize what a great sex partner I have in her and it is another reason I love her so much.
Used Viagra & Cialis until lost vision in one eye due to AION, therefore can never use pills again, then tri-mix 1 1/2 years until unreliable. Implanted 9/20/22 at 77 years old by Dr. Yafi, UC Irvine. Married 55 years wife 76. 20cm Coloplast Titan.
80 yrs., married 57 yrs. ED for over 20 yrs.