AmansinCali wrote:Hey Minnesota,
I was happy to see your reply and your change of attitude. As I read your latest post it sounded like you were describing my progress, your recovery is like a mirror image of mine.
I was actually glad to hear you had to lay off of pumping for a couple days because I had to also. The skin of my scrotum and the tissue caught between my fingers and the pump really became inflamed and sore. I am at my high school class reunion this weekend and I was really concerned about walking around with a hard on I bought some new shirts I could wear untucked, but, like you I feel like I am hanging lower plus I am just getting more comfortable with my new flaccid. My wife says I could easily go tucked in and no one would notice and she added do you really check out the other guys in the gym shower? LOL! I think we are getting used to our new look.
I am not too concerned about laying off pumping for a few days because a lot of guys don’t begin cycling for 4 to 6 weeks, so I am going to ease into it, makes no sense to me to make yourself that sore. I had more problems pumping than deflating, like you say it is hard to keep the pump from slipping out of your grip, fortunately it hasn’t crashed into anything sensitive if you know what I mean.
I am not sure why, but my flaccid is hanging lower too. We just have to keep in mind we are not that long out of surgery and everything is still cooling off. I think that is why I had such inflammation from pumping, we are just plain not healed yet. I will definitely look up your doctor’s video and let you know it helps. No, I have not had sex with my wife, she was at all my appointments and surgery and there is no way she would let me use it on her, rules are rules! I will definitely let you know how it goes and you do the same. I think it will be a lot easier for me, she is very understanding and wants this to work as much as I do and she doesn’t want any setbacks. Do you have a friend with benefits who could help you launch your new tool? If you will be using it with someone completely new it brings up a bunch of different issues…best of luck with that. Let me know how it goes.
I too have new feelings in my dick, I think it is from having a ‘semi’ all the time, it just makes everything more sensitive, a lot of guys have reported this which seems like a good thing. I will be so relieved when and if I get glans engorgement, that is really important. I was getting a lot with tri-mix so I hope that transfers over. It will be so nice to get back in the saddle, we have some catching up to do.
Overall, I am very happy with my recovery, never any pain, except for the soreness from beginning to cycle. It was all just irritation from trying to pump, it takes a lot more pressure than I anticipated, one video I watched said there is 20 lbs of pressure when the implant is filled, that makes the little pump really hard.
So glad you are feeling better Minnesota, I know it is hard to be patient. Best of luck!
WEEK 4 UPDATE (Actually 27 days but 4 weeks as of tomorrow morning from the date of this posting)
*This update is also in response to AmansinCali. I personally feel our reciprocal conversations adds a lot of value to my updates and those of you out there following along given our journey beginning on the same day.
AmansinCali - I am glad we are on the same path to recovery and can offer each other some help and hopefully others as well. I still have that inflammation between the sac (hematoma) which likes to sit right where the deflation valve is. I need to really move things around and basically push right through it just to get to the deflation valve. I am visiting a friend in St. Louis and have actually been out partying a bit and have been to clubs and even used my new toy the other night which I will get to in a bit!
As far as your reunion, AmansinCali, I think it will go great. Maybe deflate it as much as possible, put that one pump back in and put it to whatever side it hangs best.. I found it helpful to practice in public. What I mean is you almost need to get uncomfortable before you get comfortable with it. I knew I had to look nice and wear nice clothes to some of the places I have been this past week and I just forced myself to be uncomfortable, and eventually as these last few days and nights went on, I only noticed a small bulge when I laid it the right way for me, and my tubes got more used to laying to the left and down my thigh. I just got more used to it.. For me, what is most uncomfortable as of now is at the top of the tubes when I bend it to the left and down my leg when flaccif and trying to be in public wearing nicer tighter fitting clothing.. I believe this is what people describe as dog ears? That bend sort of feels uncomfortable. I am most comfortable wearing baggy sweats or shorts and free balling it at home but obviously not always feasible. I have found that lululemon underwear feel the best when I do need to wear nicer and tighter pants or shorts. I just stretch out the side of the underwear a bit where my penis hangs for a little extra room so it doesn’t bend down so much that it is way too uncomfortable and unbearable to do. But it gives it just enough room.. Keeps it tight enough to where I can get used to it and there’s not a bulge that just looks a boner lol. Just a nice bulge.
As far as other guys and the showering, I am probably the straightest gay person you would ever meet (I mean this playfully and with respect to gays. I have buddies who are gay so no offense to this) so my buddies and I like to give each other shit in the locker rooms and stuff so I know they will definitely see I am hung and it will be funny, idc! I will need to wait til it sits down more though before I shower with anyone…. Especially at work with guys who aren’t tight friends and will see my “flaccid bruised boner” in the shower. I know it will get better tho.
The other night (2 nights ago, 25 days after surgery) and gave it a go! I brought a girl home and found it extremely painful as I was being teased with her riding on top of me with underwear on. Basically riding and pressing down right on the bottom of my dick with her on top and her body weight pressing down… but I fought through it and acted like it was enjoyable lol. I pumped in the bathroom right before I went into the bedroom. BJ and HJ were a bit awkward in my own head, not sure about hers. Reason being is because I knew she had to of felt the tubing a bit with her hand when giving me a HJ while I laid on my back and she was on top… and mainly the pump in my balls given it is so hard and she kept touching down there. She never said anything tho. And keep in mind this is my first time and only awkward because this is a partner that has no clue, and I didn’t tell her. With a partner who knows, would not have been a thing at all… Anyway, what is extremely natural is the sex. There is absolutely nothing unnatural feeling about it for me or the partner as I can tell. You just have a rock hard boner and it feels great for them. As far as ejaculation, wayyyy stronger than in the past. I don’t know why, but it is. I also should add that the next morning I felt things were getting hot and heavy and I actually succeeded at pumping with one hand underneath the covers! I did not go to the bathroom or anything. I should note that the night before all I did was hit my deflate valve a few times without squeezing on the penis to get everything out because it was like 5am and I figured what is the big deal if I wake up with a slight boner or chub. Well, it went down to probly 50% before bed, and with some pumps with my one hand under the covers It got me to like 70% the next morning, which was enough. After I pumped with one hand I didn’t really have the chance to do more because that would have required both hands given how hard it gets to pump as you get harder… and she was already on me. I didn’t know I could do that with one hand but I was under pressure and I guess I am good under pressure?!! It worked out and felt good to get the first one out of the way. My first discreet one that is, even better! I don’t mean to get so personal, but I think this helps people get the best understanding of real life moments with the implant life.
AmansinCali, Interesting you had more issues pumping versus deflating, unlike me.. Don’t you find it tough deflating with all that hematoma in the sac? For those of you who don’t know, hematoma is; “a bad bruise. It happens when an injury causes blood to collect and pool under the skin. The pooling blood gives the skin a spongy, rubbery, lumpy feel.”
That is one thing we are opposite on, AmansinCali. That spongy like pooling blood underneath is what makes it tough to get to that deflate valve. However, I am able to get it after some work. As far as engorgement in the head, if it isn't succesful for you, would cialis or viagra help that possibly? I have noticed that my head did seem a little floppier when I use it for sex when rubbing my head on her in certain spots... Again, tough to explain without being completely blunt!
Next time I pump and update on here, I will count how many pumps it takes to get hard from full deflation. I have found mine is not very many at all in respect to many I’ve read on here, and I have a decent sized reservoir and tubes as well… I am pretty happy about that inflating aspect, and I know deflating will be better once that internal inflammation subsides a bit.. As you said though it makes no sense to pump this early when you are too sore… I also know it isn’t good to wait too long, as Spanish on here told me. I guess the hematoma won’t become worse or cause damage if working through it when pumping and deflating… I began cycling again after my first use two nights ago but only once per day in the evening.
Now 29. 27y/o when implanted. For 9 yrs was told it was PerfAnxiety. Tried almost everything imaginable. Diagnosis: Low penis inflow via Doppler. 9/20/22 Dr. Kohler RochesterMayo. Titan 22cm no RTE 125cc. Pre Implant length:6 Girth:idk. Post: L:6 G:4.6